My husband used to wear all black too. It just happened to be his favorite color he told me. He did that for years even after we were married. Oh...and absolutely refused to wear anything other than t-shirt n jeans. Now...he prefers no jeans but rather shorts or "jogging pants" for comfort, and has decided black is ok sometimes but not all the time. I have been with him through it all. I didn't love him any more or less bc of his clothes. Some do judge based on our outerwear, yes. ... But, some judge based on how smart we are, or what beliefs we have, what color our hair is, how fat or skinny we are, how much money we have, what political party we claim to agree with, etc. My point is, there is no way to make sure you are not judged harshly and will therefore gain friends. Just be yourself, enjoy being you. The ones who are true friends will be attracted strongest to you when they see you being self confident yet not overly gruff, and just enjoying yourself for who n what you are. There will be people all through life that come and go. The only one constant you can depend on, is you...so, you need to like you. Once you like you, people sense it. Then, you will find more people flock to you more easily.

You aren't as bad with social skills as you seem to think, but you are hard on yourself. You really are doing a lot better than when we first met.

It was nice to see the response you made to Turtle_Rider. I am proud of you. I hope you are too.

*hugs*