This is a tough one.. if it were me, I would still want to go, despite the political instability and despite the relationship, but I would want to make sure I would be safe. Would you be safe? And unless he puts a ring on your finger, I would not stay for him. That is giving up a dream, the chance of a lifetime, for something that may/may not work out long-term, even though you believe it will. He could visit you, and you could visit him... at least a couple times, right? Someone also mentioned can you just go for six months, which may be easier on the relationship. I think that's a good idea. I also agree with the others to take your time with this & weight the pros and cons. You've got many months before it's May. It is not an easy decision, so I hope whatever direction you choose, that it is the right and best decision FOR YOU and that you feel right about it in your heart and mind. ((((Hugs))))