Thanks, Perna and Cyrano. Long drives on the interstate tend to afford me time to ruminate too (often not in a good way)-- both my therapy and group are rather far from me, so I do a lot of thinking/remembering on Tuesdays and Wednesdays more than anything. Unfortunately, it's usually on my way home rather than there. That's fortunate that you were on your way to your therapist when you got news like that. I tend to go to therapy completely in touch with emotions about day-to-day stressors (work, traffic, etc) which don't necessarily need much talking about, and completely detached from emotions about past abuse, which is why I am there in the first place (but then on random days that I don't go to therapy, it just hits me). But I guess detachment/emotional numbness was my biggest coping mechanism...