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Originally Posted by pifi
hy divine, thank you for your answer! i didnt have sex with him right away, we dated about a month and a half before the first kiss! which all my friends were amazed of how long it took. and i dont expect also from my self to love someone so fast. i am not in love with him yet, but i do want to get to know him, and see if feelings can develop. do you know poeple nowadays that wait for a love decleration before going to bed???
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Yes. My husband and I did. It's not that declaration itself was important but rather the fact that we had feelings for each other way more than just liking.
Of course I am not saying you must always wait. But if you have trouble with serious relationships you might want to focus on other things first.
You said you see him once a week and your main activity is being in bed. That certainly doesn't strike me as serious deep and meaningful connection. I doubt you'd develop deep feelings if your main activity is sex.
That's what I am trying to say look for people with whom you have enough in common besides sex. You likely don't have much in common with this guy or you'd two be doing more than sex, see each other more and engage in variety of activities.
PS I think it's ok to wait longer to develop feelings, but if a person verbatim declares that he doesn't love you, it's very unlikely this story has any future.