It would be great if some of the competent ones could bring light to the situation regarding the other therapists. I agree in that blaming it on inadequate supervision or consultation is insane. One problem with my termination was that the consultant had her own countertransference towards me as evidenced by my Previous T telling me, my consultant told me that she thinks you are continuing to manipulate me. ??? What do I say to that? For the record, my current T has repeatedly told me that I am not manipulative and that I don't try to manipulate him even if I wondered I was. IF both the consultant and the therapist think you are being manipulative, then guess what, they are going to treat you that way. I thought it was unprofessional anyway for him to say, hey guess what the consultant thinks of you? How childish of him.

How therapists define the problem largely effects how they feel towards you. Shortly after, I was terminated. Ignorance can be a huge factor in these cases. My previous T would tell me, you're neediness is childish. (duh, that's where it came from). Then he would say, Can't the adult part of you take care of the child? Ignorance. My current T treats this part of me with kindness, patience, and consistency and I am, albeit slowly, starting to treat myself with compassion when I feel abandoned. It remains a struggle. But with Previous T, he shamed me, like your adult should be able to take care of it so why are you making this choice to feel this way? Ignorance. My current T just told me that I was not making a choice to feel a certain way, that my feelings were genuine.

I know it seems like I demonize one, (true), and I idealize my current T, but is it idealization if it's true? I don't think he's perfect, he just treats me kindly.

So, I think that one major factor in terminations is ignorance of the therapist. Maybe they haven't been trained in their schooling in attachment issues, but then they shouldn't be allowed to treat people like us.

I hope I made sense and didn't just ramble on.