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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967
I'm sorry you're in such a difficult position and I'm sorry you're going through so much pain.
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Thank you Jennifer.
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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967
Do you think this relationship can continue with you having one foot out the door and feeling the way you feel?
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I honestly do not yet know. I know that feelings evolve and I am very early into uncharted territory. I know too that between my poor health and money having been very tight for some time now, my wife and I have had had limited opportunities to have extracurricular fun. So, I have made arrangements to have an all day date with her tomorrow. We are going out of town to a lovely area she has never been to before, go sightseeing, visit an art gallery and finishing the night with a Broadway-type show at the theatre.
Perhaps my answer lies less about investing in our long term future as it is investing in the now.
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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967
I ask this because it appears that your wife is not willing to put in the work or show you a good faith effort that she intends to stay clean. I wish you the best and hope you make a decision that brings you peace and healing. Sending big hugs.  |
I believe that my wife is not putting in the work because she does not recognize it as helpful. I believe it is akin to telling someone that 'if you want to quit smoking, you should eat a lemon everyday'. That person not buying a bag of lemons at the grocer is not necessarily an indication that they are not serious about quitting smoking, it may just be that they feel it is snake oil. I believe that she is sincere in her desire and decision to not use any more, I just think she's unarmed entering the biggest fight of her life.
Thank you so much for your support.
