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Old Sep 01, 2017, 04:46 AM
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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway View Post
Based on what you've described I'd characterize the T's behavior as being incompetent. Unfortunately, the type of incompetence they displayed is very common as the professional training itself contains many erroneous ideas, not based on research and not connected to the reality of how the human brain and everything it's connected to operates. The existing trauma research demonstrates how some well-established psychotherapy methods can be harmful because they don't take into account the physiology of trauma. Your T seems to follow the classic traditional methods when they don't have to listen to you and try to understand your own experience, but, instead, they are supposed to give you their own ideas of what you "must be" feeling that should be accepted as facts and also tell you what to do about it. This is a very authoritarian approach and an arrogant one to take. Despite this method being taught in training, I consider therapists who use it incompetent because they don't have the reality-based knowledge. And, frankly, I would question the intentions of a therapist who chooses to practice this way.
teafruit, i agree with Ididitmyway and that your T sounds too incompetent to be helpful for the needs and understanding that you require. the one unprofessional thing i see he is doing by what you shared in your original post is that he is not admitting his limitations and referring you on to someone who does have the proper training and competency to assist you.

Ts who are incompetent, although not intentional, have the potential to cause a client more harm than good in the long run.
Thanks for this!
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