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pinksoil said:
I would need to know more about the use of sex as an analogy for intimacy

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Okay here goes, Pink. The story behind that analogy (thumbnail version):

A long time ago I had a dream that I saw T working in a bowling alley (random side job for a therapist, eh?). I thought it was a very stupid dream until I figured out what it was about: The bowling alley was located in the same place that the game-room was located in my college. I became involved with the guy who was working in the game-room. He was the first person who ever tried to seduce me physically, and it was absolutely fascinating to me. In the case of therapy, intimacy is equally new to me (as sex was back then) and just as fascinating. So I was relating this dream to T. I even mentioned that the guy who worked in the game-room had had lots of sexual partners (just like a therapist would have had lots of clients), so I thought the dream made sense. And in the midst of all the discussion of sex, T says he wonders if he's ignoring the "elephant in the room" -- the possibility that I want to have sex with him. Which was where I said that that wasn't my fantasy and then felt bad about it!

Clearer now?
Sidony