Can you leave him? Do you want to leave him? Please examine your reasons for staying with him and try to evaluate if they are worth the harm he is causing you. Do you have children? Do you have an income? Do you have a support system? Have you contacted your local domestic violence agency? Even if he's not physically abusive, they can still help you. Are you in therapy?

I was with a man like that for 27 years and I had my reasons for not leaving even after things started to escalate. Honestly, the only reason he's gone now is because he's been in jail for the last five weeks. I would probably still be trying to figure out how to resolve what I saw as the issues with me leaving and he would still be there harming me. It's not going to get any better. It may get worse.