Thank you Jennifer. Last night my girlfriend's daughter took me out for ice cream after our rejected visit. I was a wreck. We had a nice discussion, I learned things I maybe should have noticed or wrote off as unimportant. While I feel like a father to the girl and she treats me like her dad, I wasn't comfortable probing into their relationship, they were mother/daughter and I was just the boyfriend. I wish I'd asked a few questions, or suggested counseling, or something. Because of my girlfriend's health problems, I was usually the one who went to school plays and activities with her daughter. We talked a lot, I love to talk to her, but we never talked about family stuff. I wish we had. Now I feel like I'm standing on railroad tracks trying to stop a train wreck with my arms out.