Oh my goodness, Anna What an awful position to be in. Please understand you haven't done anything wrong at all. Your ex boyfriend is the one who made the tape without your acknowledgment.

Sex is perfectly natural human function. Without it, your family wouldn't exist, you wouldn't exist, religion wouldn't necessarily exist. You've committed no sin at all. What you did was a normal act of intimacy between your boyfriend - HE is the one who was deceitful and cruel with bad intentions. There is no way you could possibly be seen as a disgrace, friend

If this unfortunate circumstance ever comes to your families attention, please try to remain calm and explain you didn't know anything about it and that your boyfriend went behind your back. If you feel like you can perhaps open up to them and share this issue with them, that might be a good idea. Also, what he has done is against the law in most countries. I'm not sure about India, but you could do some research into this. See if it's possible to seek justice?

Regards to the people gossiping behind your back - I know it's easier said than done - but please don't take any notice. They are the ones taking their time out of their borrowed time on this earth to cast judgment on you. You are simply living your life and not hurting a soul. You haven't done anything wrong. They are the ones causing distress and unrest in an innocent persons life.

I really am hoping and wishing the best for you, Anna This wouldn't be easy for anyone. You'r extremely strong coming here for support and opening up! Your life definitely isn't over.