Hyper-arousal in people who've been sexually abused is completely normal. This is self destructive and harmful and not at all what someone with a healthy libido should experience. That being said not to shame you for having hyper arousal, at all. More like it's not understood that this is not a facet of a healthy sex drive/ sex life, and that victims do this to cope. Even if we don't intend to do this, it happens and sometimes it's not something we CAN control. Working through trauma can definitely help things like this happen less often.

I go through this too and am glad that someone started the conversation about it. We can get through this!! One thing that's helped me has been to make sure I consume only healthy sexual media where each party is consenting, whether it's books or whatever. Romanticising consesual sex rather than scary non-consensual has been slowly helping me replace what I know of sex, and essentially re-wires my brain to automatically imagine the healthy fantasies rather than the unhealthy ones. I say re-wire because after a while of associating masturbation and sex with healthier things, your brain will literally re-route the neuron paths it takes between the parts of your brain that associates things with sex. The concept comes from pain management techniques I learned for fibromyalgia, applied to hyper arousal. It helps me but you may have luck with other methods, unfortunately I don't have resources to other methods but I'll keep this thread in mind if I find any. Actually, I can ask my therapist and reply back here with what they say, if you want?