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Originally Posted by pifi
hey Bill, thank you for your comment. i dont know if youve read the whole thread, but i wrote about our situation, that im a very responsible side to the very partial connection that we build so far. so in total we have been dating only 7 months, and im not yet in love with either, dont you think its normal that falling in love can take longer?
my problem is that im super anxious bcs this is the longest relationship ive had so far in my life, and im feeling clueless about my own perspective. i didnt imagine at the begining that id ever feel sth for him at all, so this is a big surprise for me... and i honestly dont know how to act
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It's not normal to tell people "I don't love you". Frankly it's rude and mean. If you aren't in love, but think you might eventually get there, you might say that you aren't sure yet where it's going, you want to get to know them better or something. I am yet to meet a person who would just say "I don't love you" unless intent is to let you know there is no future there or to hurt you. And mind you I am very blunt, yet that's not normal (or normal in a sense of letting you know he is not that into you)
Please don't disrespect yourself by hanging on to this dude. There are others out there. You deserve better. And don't worry about not having experience. You can always tell people that you were busy with other things and didn't have time to seriously date much.
You feel anxious because this relationship is wrong for you. If it was warm and loving connection, you wouldn't be anxious. Get rid of him imho