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Originally Posted by divine1966
People vacation together for plenty of reasons. Love and commitment aren't required for vacationing together. It doesn't have any deep meaning. It is just a vacation.
I have no idea why he proclaims commitment if he doesnt love you, doesn't know you well and frankly his main experience with you is just sex. People say and do strangest things. I don't see much point in analyzing this guy. He could mean 100 things by it or he might be just talking. Perhaps by commitment he means he will not sleep around. Who knows. But generally speaking a man who is serious about you and actually is committing will have way more going on than just sleeping together. He'd be asking you places and taking you to do things etc There will be a variety of experiences and he wouldn't rudely announced that he doesn't love you.
Usually analyzing people is pointless because you'll never find the answers. You can only analyze your own actions.
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yes by commitment he means not sleeping with others. well i also want to commit but im not yet in love with him. the commitment is the gate for that, and the ground for love to develop...he does often invites me to see his gigs (hes a musician), or if he hears about my other plans he suggests to join. i have been less of cooporating on socialising for the first 4 months, bcs i thought hes a loser (i also used to give him critical remarks) so he kinda learned the lesson...now its me that caught myslef, and realised i was a *****. and that its was all my projections and anxiety of closeness..you see what i mean?