yes by commitment he means not sleeping with others. well i also want to commit but im not yet in love with him. the commitment is the gate for that, and the ground for love to develop...he does often invites me to see his gigs (hes a musician), or if he hears about my other plans he suggests to join. i have been less of cooporating on socialising for the first 4 months, bcs i thought hes a loser (i also used to give him critical remarks) so he kinda learned the lesson...now its me that caught myslef, and realised i was a *****. and that its was all my projections and anxiety of closeness..you see what i mean?