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Originally Posted by reb569
She seems to be doing good right now. She and her boyfriend have been in their apartment for about a month, he's working, she started school last week.
But yesterday I found a stash of her meds when I was cleaning out her room so that I can move my office into there and convert my old office into a spare room/storage room. I was hoping that she would do more of the cleaning but she didn't and with school starting I know she isn't going to have time in the near future so, I told her I was going to work on cleaning it out. She stashed about 8 days of meds in a plastic bag, stuffed inside her laptop box. I was contemplating throwing it out but wanted to make sure there was no paperwork or discs in it, so there, inside a compartment within the box I found them.
So now I'm not sure if she's still on her meds, or has been tapering down, or if she just was saving some for her next attempt if it came to that.
I can never seem to get out from under this. But I have to keep looking at the fact that right now she seems to be very happy and she may have stock piled prior to meeting her boyfriend. I just don't know what it all means right now. They will be up sometime this weekend so I'm going to ask her about it then.
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So happy for your daughter. That's got to make you smile to see her so happy. I hate that you found those meds. Are you sure you want to confront her about them? Things seem to be going well for you guys right now. If they have been there for over a month, is it really that important? She's a young woman, with her own life now. You are her mom and will always worry about her, that's a mom's job. But you have to support her now, she's doing really well, and you are happy for her. I can see where that would hurt a little and I think all parents have a little problem when they don't feel as needed by their child anymore. Not to say they are not very happy and proud of their kids for striking out and finding themselves. It's just so much of a parents life is put into protecting and guiding a child and the time goes by so quick.
Did you you prepare her enough for life outside the home? Did you teach her respect and responsibilities? Did you do the best you could? I am almost certain you did. So now you are seeing the unfolding of all your hard work, the beautiful person you groomed her to be. Be proud and let her test the waters of life. Being there every time to catch her when she slips up, or to point that out to her, is giving her a false sense of her strength. You know we became strong from going through our own mistakes/hardships and working through them. Strength is not a given, I don't think. I know you love her with all your heart and I'm so glad she's close by to help you with this empty nest period. You guys are starting a whole new chapter to your relationship now
