(((nicole)))

When I was about to move away, my former T asked if I could look at our termination as an opportunity to process grief/loss... maybe if I could be intentional and careful about processing the grief over losing her, it would help me going forward... and could help me look back at former losses I've had.

Another thing that my former pdoc said to me when I was about to meet with a new t for the first time was to tell the new t how I felt scared and ambivalent about meeting with the new t, how I had a really good relationship with former-pdoc and former-t and I was really going to miss them and stuff. That helped too because then I didn't feel like it this unsayable thing getting in the way of trying to attach to new-t.

But, all suggestions aside... I am so so sorry. That sounds so sad and hard.