I find this whole subject sad. Yes I agree part of it is society. I think part of it as well is that everybody wants a quick fix. I don't mean that in a judging way. I'm just saying that society has led us to the way of thinking where there's a pill for everything, there's a quick fix for everything. We want to feel better so we let ourselves fall into the belief that the therapist knows all and if we just give ourselves over to them they will solve everything for us without us having to put in the work and suffer the pain ourselves. I know my response is not going to be the most popular one but in a way I think many of us get what we're looking for. As previous people as stated we don't want to take the responsibility for making our own decisions it's much easier to let somebody else rule our lives and blame them when things go wrong versus making our own decisions and having to blame ourselves. Another way to look at it is we did make the decision to let them rule our lives. So in that way we gave up our control by choice. It seemed to be the easier road at the time. In that respect we did make her own decision and have to accept the price for that decision.

Thankfully I am coming at this subject from a totally opposite side of the fence which is equally as sad when you think about the price I've paid for my point of view. I grew up as an only child in an extremely abusive and neglectful house. I learned at a young age that I cannot rely on anyone I must rely on myself. I must be strong I can't give my power over to anyone. I have to be in control I cannot let anybody ever know that I am scared. I always had to build walls, not let anybody in to see the frightened little child inside. I carried this philosophy into adulthood and I actually did not learn that I feel fear until about 4 months into therapy which began in my 50s. I'm extremely lucky to have a great therapist who does not want me to be dependent or try to get me to be dependent on him. He actually tells me don't trust him too much he's going to make mistakes. He also tells me how strong I am especially once he learned that the thought of me feeling fear drove me to dissociation. My need to control everything has been with me since childhood. I have DID and I have an altar who comes out if I start crying or show fear in public. This was how I survived as a child. The price I paid throughout childhood allows me to not have to worry about giving power over to a therapist because I don't trust him at all really. I like him I feel he's helping me but I never blindly trust anything he says without doing my own research and sitting down and coming to my own conclusion of what he is saying. So although I will never share the problem some of you have, coming from the opposite end of the spectrum is just as sad. The price I paid in order to not have your problem was just as painful and has lasted a lifetime.