How did we get so disempowered? Was it better before, during, or after therapy? And why does it happen in therapy.

I gave him my power (well not consciously). Everything he said or did impacted me. It was like I was weak and dependent. Like his actions determined my fate rather than mine.

@Rayne... I'm sorry you're hurting having a difficult time with this you ask how did we get so disempowered. Unfortunately I think that's something only you can answer for yourself each person is going to be different. On the other hand I think you answered it yourself and your second post when you said you really don't think he was best suited for you for your background. Keep in mind you still hold your power. Reaching deep find it inside yourself. Find another therapist that is not going to encourage dependence someone that wants you to be in control of every session and remind you how strong you are.