After refusing to work on mindfulness bc it seemed like a cliche they are all pushing right now, T had me read Jon Kabat-Zinn, a person with whom he worked in hs training. The theory imagines strong feelings as a river running, and people choosing to stand on the river bank and watch feelings move fast like white water or slowly pass like a lazy stream. This sometimes helps me. I was a resistant PIA first , but now I try to kick some distance between feelings and reactions with JKZinn.