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Old Sep 03, 2017, 07:45 AM
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Originally Posted by eclairparty98 View Post
With all due respect to anyone who is incapable of feeling particular emotions -- this isn't about anyone on the forums. But about certain people I've come across on my trails who are totally deprived of any empathy, sympathy and humanity.

I'm having trouble dealing with the burden that is acknowledgment of awful, vicious, nasty people who are so toxic and poisonous, they thrive off of drama, misery and unrest. Basically, back in 2011/2012, I was extremely unhappy and couldn't recognise a 'positive influence' and so surrounded myself with like-minded, equally miserable individuals. There was a lot of judging, badmouthing, HORRENDOUS bullying, gossiping and a blatant disregard for other people seen among these individuals.

I got out, thank goodness, and surrounded myself with great, positive, caring people -- all of whom I've lost touch with -- and now I'm burdened with the memories of how awful, cold and evil some people can be.

It's extremely disconcerting going about your daily business when suddenly you're reminded of the awful things an evil person could do to ruin your mood. This is a constant, persistent intrusive thought I don't know how to tackle.

How do you deal with the knowledge that there are some really evil people out there among the innocent, kind and generous?? Vicious bullies and judgmental people are one problem, let alone murders, kidnappers and abusers. What do you tell yourselves??
I tell myself that I'm not those people, and never will be, and I'm grateful I'm not them.
There are a lot of people that suck. I didn't choose their lives. They did. Sometimes we let them choose ours, sometimes they overpower us and choose for us. But, they are not my fault, they are a result of their actions or inactions.
For example, I chose to marry and stay with my ex all those years, but I made the wise decision, finally, to divorce her, removing her hold on me by simply removing her from my life. Saw her recently and it was no different than seeing a stranger on the street. I ignored her and she went away.
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