That is the question my therapist asked me.

I can be very cynical at times. I might have been rude. The reason is that I need a lot of help. I was trying to tell my therapist that I am frustrated by the whole experience. It is not easy for me to discuss feelings.

She felt that I was attacking her personally. That is not the case. I was trying to tell her that this low intensity approach of meeting once a week wasn't helping me. I needed something more. Her response was "why do you come to therapy?"

I come to therapy, because I am unable to help myself. I need her assistance. She is actually a very good therapist and I have learned a lot from her. I thought she was very unkind to me when I was trying to be candid with her. She wanted to win the argument by punching me in the gut.

I still need her. Again, she has been a very good therapist, but I am unable to get over this. I know if I bring it up she will dismiss me. Does anyone with clinical experience know why she would say this?

I felt like she was telling me I could quit therapy or I could shut up. That is very unkind. Again, I know her job is not to fix my problems, but I was trying to articulate myself. She encourages this and then when she didn't like what I was saying she shut me up.

I am invested in her. I am afraid if I bring this up she will fire me or hurt me worse. I am extra nice to her, because I am afraid she will try to pull rank on me.

So my question is why does she do this? I think she has been very helpful with me, but the one time I try to express my feelings she shoots me down. Sometimes therapy hurts and that is what I was trying to say. She thought I was trying to be critical of her. I am not sure what to do. I want to continue with her.

Is there a clinical reason for doing this? She doesn't need to kick me while I am down. I already understand that she has things a whole lot together and I do not. Why did she want to win the argument so much that she would threaten me like this. Yes, I mean threaten. She was basically telling me to shut up or move on.