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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967
For instance, there is an abrasive poster who is frequently hostile and defensive but when you read his posts you can sense the pain he's in. I support and show kindness to that pain. JMHO. 
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I do hope that you're not referring to me because I have been fitting that bill as of late.
If so, than you need only look towards those who made me that way, while being grateful that I'm actually trying to do something about "dark and twisted" that I may be. Yes, I lack empathy. I'm not a psychopath or narcissist or anything; just somebody who has been hurt enough to where I lost the ability to connect and empathize with people at some point. Do I go around hurting other people? No. I am trying to do something about it, but the part about making myself vulnerable so that I can connect with other people is hard for me because I don't want to get hurt by people anymore.
But yeah, the more that I think about this topic, the easier that I find it to empathize with these types of people because it's freaking hard to change when you've been hurt by so many people. I struggle with the empathy department but can feel more empathy for rapists and serial killers because this dark and lonely world made them into what they are and they had nobody to help them when they needed it so they were willing to sink to any low necessary to survive in a world that just doesn't give a damn. Yes, they were weak for not trying harder to change, but aren't we all weak and fragile in our own little ways? After all, life is fleeting.
Those of us who are actually trying to rise up and become better, despite our struggles in life or how much pain we've endured deserve to be praised because it is easier for some of us to start hurting other people for our benefit to sate whatever emptiness that resides within us. Change is freaking hard.