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Probably this is very trivial, but I think I made two friends!
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To me, it is significant and I am very happy for you!
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The mom is so nice! I really like her. We also have a lot of things in common, and I feel like we could get a long really well. I think she's really smart and capable, too. She has standards and structure, and I want to talk to her more. She gives really good advice.
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This is the upside of openness and vulnerability. If you had chosen to never connect with the mother, think of what you would have missed!
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The problem is that I didn't get home until around 10 pm, and didn't really get to do a lot of the things I planned for myself today. Is it usually time consuming to have friends?
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It can be, but that is something to be managed. When one is in school, for example, many times one can rely on friends to understand or at least accept it when there is studying or other work to be done.
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I'm kind of wary of making friends because it makes me emotionally exhausted and I worry about offending people when I need to be alone to get things done.
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As above: these can be managed. A "friend" who gets upset because you have work to do really isn't such a good friend.
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Also, I usually get annoyed when I get too close to people and find out their problems. It reminds me of my mother and I feel like I have to manage those people and the friendship.
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It is excellent that you are aware of why you get annoyed when you get too close to people. This awareness can remind you not manage those people even though you might always need to manage your mom.
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Obviously, this means I have no friends. I also feel like I've performed a service when I'm nice to people. Then they comment on my general niceness/palatable-ness and I get offended.
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You get offended because they do not see what you have done as a service?
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I'm really surprised they still talked to me today and wanted to hang out with me more and exchanged phone numbers,
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I'm not.