Personally I don't think that I gained anything positive from my trauma. I say that because my Mom, who was a very awesome caring woman, would have instilled in me the good things, to care about people, to be empathetic, to do the right thing, and in many ways she did, but not as much as she would have if she hadn't been the victim of horrific spousal abuse.

My brothers and sisters have talked about this several times over the years, especially since both our parents are gone now and we firmly believe that our negative traits and our anxiety were a direct result of our father, while our good traits were a direct result of our Mother. It was the ultimate battle of good vs evil. For the most part the good side won, but the bad has also impacted us all with anxiety issues, anger issues, trust issues, emotional stability. I'm the only one that has ever been in therapy to receive a diagnosis of CPTSD. I'm sure most of my siblings also have it to some degree. My younger sister was put on paxil by an MD years ago for panic attacks but has never seen a therapist.