I was never normal but did nearly keep up with a house full of kids, more than 4, and go to school or work or just try to care for the kids. Everyone in that house had some diagnosis or other. I feel like I failed, but somehow they turned out good overall. Stress was always beyond max and I did wind up being hospitalized more than once and needed it more than that. I don't know how norms do it, but I've yet to find one