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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
No, not since my attempt. If I stick up for my rights, he backs off. So it really is up to me. No more lazy thinking. If I don't back down (sometimes I get exhausted and don't challenge him when I should) then, someday, my life will not be such a stalemate. I just have to keep fighting for what matters to me.
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I am not sure why, but I am a little concerned. Do you feel you have to fight for your rights in this relationship? Do you feel like your SO tramples on and disrespects those rights?
I do see a couple red flags here, so I suppose that's why there is some concern. A relationship should be based on mutual respect, trust and deep appreciation. One shouldn't have to fight for that, so I am wondering if you need to fight for being respected, when respect should be the basis of a relationship and always demonstrated through action and words. Just wondering, no conclusions.
Perhaps the couples counseling will help, but he should admit to monitoring your forum activity and be honest. Also, if he is blaming your MI for his monitoring, that is an abuse tactic. It's turning the tables on you and he is not taking full responsibility for invading your right to privacy.
I am glad you are staying on the forum. (((Hugs))))