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Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend
You have a point. Thanks.
What made me want to ask this was a conversation that I had with a relative over the phone. He was going on about how I should switch to night classes and work full time to save up more money. When I mentioned that it would be hard for me because of my mental health, he was all like "well if I can do it you can too".
I'm not upset about this, I was simply trying to understand further how some people can work that hard while others can't. Some people don't seem to realize that no two people are the same, I guess.
And for the record, I'm not weak by any means. I just have trouble taking on a lot of things at once. I have poor multitasking skills and get overwhelmed when faced with a large number of tasks, yet give me 1 or 2 big hard tasks that many people would struggle with, and I would thrive in finishing them.
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Mental health issues are hard enough to contend with, but add school and work on top of it, and that's a mountain to climb. I commend you for your achievements and for what you're doing. You should be proud of yourself. Your relative probably doesn't understand how mental health issues can interfere with normal, everyday functioning. He is different and feels you should be the same, but you're not and that's perfectly OK!
And multi tasking is a still that can be developed and worked on, but for some, it may come more naturally than for others. That's just how our natural skills work. I am sure you have other skills that come more easily - we all do.
I am more similar to you in that I get overwhelmed by too many tasks, I am more methodical and need just 1-2 on my plate. Then I can tackle the rest. So, jobs where tons of tasks are thrown at me at once don't work well for me and are much harder for me. It's just the way I function, and that is OK. Same for you, too. Nothing to feel bad about. It's just the way you are. Your strength is being able to tackle the bigger, more challenging tasks that may be harder for others, so kudos to you!
We are all different, and some people falsely believe we can function the same way as they do. That's a failure (or rather a misconception on their part).
Just do what feels right and most manageable for YOU. That's what matters the most. (((((Hugs)))))