Just thought I'd post about a weird coincidence (which I guess could be explained by a bunch of other stuff but I still find it pretty neat!) related to this thread.

I hadn't (still haven't!) read the article -- I skimmed the first couple of paragraphs yesterday and left it because I didn't think it was terribly relevant to me.

I had my session last night and current T -- rather unusually because she rarely ever uses psych language -- said that a lot of my issues (E.g. I don't feel like I have a sense of self and find it really rather odd when other people express concern about "me") could be tied to the absence of the capacity for mentalization, which in turn reflected developmental trauma that she's already said is a major issue for me (she prefaced it all with her usual apologies for using psycho-babble).

I guess at that time things clicked in place for me and I remembered this article.

So, thanks for posting! I've just picked up a couple of Fonagy's books on mentalization.