Idk how to advise you to build/improve those things but the fact that you do have EI/Empathy at some level is reflected in your posts. Your response about animals is just further evidence that you do have it. I think you're just tired of being hurt and rejected. I saw another post of yours where you came up with some solutions to some of the challenges facing you. Your posts show you growing and developing. That's great. You'll get there. I believe in you.