I've realised I've held a belief that I can never be happy unless I can make my dad love me. Now I've realised I truly can't change anyone nor make them do anything they don't want to do. And I'm deciding I can be happy even if he never changes!! That's just one part of my life - he didn't love me, and I'm sad about that - but what he did doesn't have to define my whole life! I choose to put my focus and energy on things that do make me happy