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Originally Posted by Shazerac
You should be able to talk about what you need to talk about. Suggesting the talking about your father may have been them trying to find the root of your "problem". However, INSISTING is not ok.
There are many different schools of thought on therapy. Some are caught up in the old "if you are female then you must have father issues." And try to push that on you. There are newer approaches, and I forgot what they're called that take an approach of "what's going on now in your life, and what changes can you make your NOW more livable. Constantly dredging up the past is not helpful for some people.
Maybe you just haven't found the right therapist. I actually interview therapists on their view of what therapy is to them. If they think that everything boils down to a relationship with parents, I move on.
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He was from my college health center. It was pretty traumatizing and humiliating. I ended up leaving school with no degree. If only I had found a good therapist!
I wouldn't even think interviewing therapists is an option. I just found ones, made the appointment, went once and didn't want to go back, or several times, then didn't want to go back. Even the therapists would never tell me what is therapy, what to expect from it, etc...
Plus, my mother would poo poo it and call it BS. She'd shame me for spending money on it. And I'd have to agree with her after speaking with the therapists.