Terminating my last t WHT and the previous one was very traumatic. I felt conflicted and alone because usually I would talk to them about things like that but I was dumping them. It's was very confusing and heartbreaking because both were really upset. I felt like they both took it personally and so I blamed myself for hurting them. I remember my second t cried her eyes out when we had our last session, it was very difficult for me because I struggle with endings, separation and attachment issues.
I think that ts can either cause a termination to be traumatic or be the cause of the trauma. My ex t was retraumatising me for a very long time before we terminated but seeing her vulnerability and her hurt really struck a cord with me and I punished myself for a long time afterwards.
The more they fight it the harder it is for the client.