I think we're 100 yards from the finish line on our work and we've just cracked into some early and very deep trauma. Cognitively I know a lot of this is transference and I haven't reacted THAT badly as I might have done previously and have managed to process some so I know I've done well. My pattern is probably to give it a go the first time to repair but withdraw on the second , so that's the feeling. Having said that he has responded very well to problems and probably would again , though I somewhat expect inappropriate responses because that's what I'm used to. Appropriate responses for me are like
And I've changed my mind what to do already several times already.