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Originally Posted by Calilady
I understand the experience it provides for you. I guess
I should never say never, but the first thing I would question is if I was following my pattern of repetition compulsion and attaching to someone unavailable to me.
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Makes total sense. Unsafe people can absolutely make the problem so much worse, which I understand from (painful) past experience. The need to avoid being re-traumatized should take precedence over the desire to heal. I'm not going to pretend that I understood any of this before I blundered into a healthy attachment with my current T, and I'm still completely bewildered about how to tell who is a "safe" person and who isn't.
