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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
I understand now Golden, and I am so sorry you had those type of men in your past - maybe you are at a critical point in your life now where you are ready to address your relationships and seek a better type of man in your future. Lots of women say they become better choosers with age and experience. 
A broken engagement is a big deal, how you feel about that is totally valid - and if these are real friends they will be feeling a lot of compassion for you right now. Have you been able to talk to any of them about it?
It's good that you acknowledge that you have a lot to be grateful for but it's okay to also acknowledge your sadness and disappointment, even if just here, as long as you balance that out with some positive 'good to yourself' time. |
thank you so much... you said this all so perfectly, with each point!
I am definitely at a critical point where I want to make FAR wiser decisions. And I am still deciding about my recent ex fiance right now (which I've written about in another thread). There are things for me to be cautious and to proceed carefully about with him, so I am trying to be smart and follow due diligence.
Great point about true friends. I've told my closest friends, and they've all been compassionate and caring. And thanks for validating my feelings.
Also great point about striking a balance. I am definitely getting out and about for fun events and often, so that's a huge plus right now. I am trying to focus on seeing my friends as much as possible, keeping busy and keeping the good times going. But in my alone time, especially since I work alone from home, I am left with my sad thoughts and feelings and sometimes, they engulf me. My communications with my ex fiance help to counter those feelings though, as he is making me happy right now.
Thank you so much again for your thoughtful reply! And to everyone else for their thoughtful replies, too!