Yes.

For many years I felt uncomfortable when people started to get friendly or affectionate. I think that your feelings go back to your relationship with your mother, just as mine did. As you explained in your other thread, your mother has at times been exceedingly hurtful to you, most especially when she said that she wished she gave you away. I'm so sorry that she seems to feel that way about you. And I am so sorry as well about the other things she has said that make you sense a disinterest in you and cause you a great deal of pain.



From your mother I believe that you have learned that when people are close to you, pain ensues. Close relationships mean pain. That what I learned from my mother as well. As a result, one naturally might shy away from close relationships! And perhaps worry, and get a feeling of dread, when someone starts to get affectionate.

Might you have an opportunity to discuss such attachment issues with a therapist?