Yes, helpme07, you still have many good years left! You do not need to stay trapped in a soul-sucking situation forever. I really relate to that phrase! I have been married 20 years and finally separated 2 months ago. It is soooooo wonderful not having the guy who was doing the soul sucking around every day to take it out of me. I am just so much happier not having him around. There are still many challenges, including financial, but this was the right thing for me to do. I think you are making great decisions toward getting on your feet financially by going back to work. One step at a time... Hang in there.