The thing is, with Skyping and calling on the phone, I'm often afraid I'll call at the wrong time or I won't have important enough things to talk about (a dynamic that played out with my parents). So if I'm initiating every time, I'm probably going to avoid calling unless I feel like I have a specific reason to. It's probably just my problem. And it's just not in his nature to initiate and that's how it's always been (he also believes that phone calls make me anxious which they can).