Hi ephemeralfeelings. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you seem to have a therapist that may welcome flirting and does not always have well defined boundaries. If they were to get romantically involved with a client, they could potentially lose their license to practice. Some of their behavior seems risky and would not favorably impress me if they were my therapist that is supposed to get me out of my tangled past.

For your sake, it sounds like it could be confusing to have therapy mixed up with signals of romance which could diminish the effectiveness of therapy. I am not sure what the answer is but I think that what you are saying seems to indicate you see some yellow flags.