I recently moved to northern California, and I notice some different qualities in my new therapist that I think are partly due to cultural differences.

1. This new therapist doesn't seem to work very hard. She doesn't have late hours or weekend hours. For awhile, she was slow to answer emails and telephone calls, until I complained. She is regularly telling me to "take it easy" and "don't work so hard." Her work ethic seems to be weaker than my previous therapists.

2. This therapist also counsels me not to try to figure things out. If a co-worker acts in a mean way, she recommends to me "just stop thinking about it or worrying about it." And when I form interpretations and opinions about the actions of people, she says, "Don't judge them because you don't really know them and you never will know them."

3. She is of the school of thought to just give up if something gets to be too hard or too difficult.

I don't really relate to this therapist because I am a hard-working person who tries to find complete answers to my questions, and I am okay with forming interpretations or making judgments even if these ideas are not set in stone. Still I want to form ideas and judgments.

Thoughts about this therapist and the California cultural effects?