you might also want to talk to her licensing board.. this would be a violation of most regulating policies for sure. i'm sorry that i don't know you or more about your situation, but i am assuming you are attached to her - yes? If so it must be so very hard. But this is a form of abuse sweetie, a huge violation of her power and your trust. Like others who misuse power, she is likely hurting other clients as well. It is no different IMO than a T who misuses power sexually, it's all about power.

i know what it is like to be stuck unable to "betray" someone you love... and we all know what being afraid of being in trouble feels like..... but please, you can't go on like this.. if you in any way can, talk to your H... and a lawyer.

and think... what would you tell me, or some other client who was in this postion?

many blessings