If I had known it as being done to me, I would not have consented. I was happy and carefree when I had them.

However, they can be damaging, depending on which ones you use. My mother used denial all the time, so even though she saw my father abusing me with her own eyes, it did not exist. Reality was distorted.

Some say if you block out pain, you block out love too. Not sure I believe that anymore though I can see how that can work for some.

Extremes of anything are not usually good.