I got a good degree of co con with a lot in my system, not all of em mind you not even close, but quite a few nonetheless. I try to listen, not for words exactly though if they come through thats a bonus, but listen for feelings, ideas, impressions or whatever. If I get a good vibe when I do something I might keep on doing that even if the activity doesn't much float my boat. Lol. Flip side of that, if I get a tense vibe from something I might just quit it even if I was planning on doing that and take some time to try some self soothing and direct it not to me but to whoever might be paying mind. For me, stuff like that builds trust and trust opens doors for communication.

I used to be one nobody had much co con with. I kept to myself when others wanted all up in my business. I didn't think they were ready to know what I was knowin. Maybe that wasn't my call to make, but I made it. A few of em tried to impose on me their ideas of who they thought I was and what they thought I was about. I didn't much care for that. My own perspective on this prompts me to come at others in my system in a almost detached way. I try real hard to not to be pushy or make guesses about what I think others I don't know about are like or why they're here but take time to talk to myself and ask if others are there listening and let them know I'd like to know them if they want to and maybe talk about how it's safe in the here and now and yammer on a bit about who I am and what I'm about.

Short of it, I talk to myself and try to pay mind to what I'm feeling and how I'm reacting and then try to be kind to my others.

Tay