I agree with the others that you present as someone who has it together. I also agree with your wife that it's good to have an established relationship with a therapist in case you need one going forward. I doubt a therapist, even a good one can help you with apathy created by meds. Apathy would be unacceptable for me but I understand how for you it's a better option than the alternative.

My therapist had me scheduled for 2 appointments a month while in crisis (one phone, one in person) once stabilized she changed it to once every 2 months. She told me I could teach therapy and she doesn't know any more than I. She cannot fix my mental health issues no matter how much rehashing I do. I don't trust easily and when unwell I don't trust at all. I feel that seeing her more frequently would allow us to build a relationship of trust that could benefit me when unwell so I plan to tell her that at my next appointment.

I've talked to many smart people who have underwent therapy for years and got nothing at all out of it....not even validation of their suffering. Therapists only usually care about function with a primary focus on working (which you seem to do fine) and interpersonal relations which you have stated are not an issue. Therefore, you are doing well in their eyes and the eyes of most people. Your experience with this therapist is typical actually and I've heard this same kind of story over and over.

For me, I want to see a therapist more often to build a real, trusting relationship. To have someone who understands me and can offer tailored advise. I might be wanting or asking for too much however. I'd stay in touch with this therapist as she could be useful if you go off the rails in the future. If you personal and professional life take a nose dive. I'm glad you have found meds which you are comfortable with the results of. It's odd that you didn't see yourself as depressed, this therapist does and yet they don't want to see you often, but that's how the game of therapy is I guess. Good luck going forward.