Let me preface by saying that after looking over the forums some (I'm new), everyone here has my sympathy for the things you're going through - and my respect for the thoughtfulness I see toward others.

This was submitted to the therapists; I'm just hoping for some casual feedback in the meantime, and/or in case they don't choose it for an answer. Here it is:

On Sunday, December 23, my father died after a long battle with congestive heart failure. On Wednesday, December 26, I went to visit my boyfriend of 7 months, seeking comfort. Also, I wanted to share with him a DVD of a short film I've adored since I was a child, which I'd told him was very special to me.

We had sex briefly and then he treated me to his end of lengthy telephone conversations with a couple of friends for most of the rest of the evening. At one point, I simply left. He called and talked me into coming back, though it was rather against my better judgment - I really felt I deserved better treatment than this, and indeed, that anyone would.

He continued as before and I slept on the sofa.

In the morning, he apologized for being inconsiderate. I thanked him for that, though I felt he was rather minimizing his lack of compassion; apologies are difficult for him, and I did really appreciate it that he offered one. However, I remained hurt and angry that he'd chosen to treat me in such cavalier fashion just when, quite literally, I needed him most.

In the few days since then, he's been very supportive by telephone, but hasn't acknowledged in any way that I might still be hurt or angry, nor made any effort to make amends. Finally I brought it up today (Saturday, the 29th). He said he doesn't feel bad about this at all and that my "idiosyncratic response" is an overreaction. It is perfectly true that sometimes I do overreact. I do not think that this is one of those times.

What do you think?

Thanks.