I think I learned of her character quite well. I had very intensive attachment therapy for 18 months. My therapist was not a blank slate and I got to know a lot of things about her. She was a very kind, caring and conscientious therapist, in addition she had a wonderful sense of humor. I suspected that what I saw of her is what her friends also saw. She used examples in her own life to help me negotiate mine healing. In the course of therapy I thought we would have made great friends, so from a posting on PC about former therapist as friends I asked her if she ever friended clients when they finished therapy. She had never done it, knew of a marriage therapist that did, and was not opposed to it, but at that time, what I needed was a therapist. A few times, we discussed different relationships when therapy was officially terminated (ex. come back for tuneups), but with friendship she could never be my therapist again.

I knew I was ready to terminate therapy with her when it did not matter to me if she said no to the a friendship. I was going to be OKAY,one way or another.

This October make it four years that we've been friends. My ex therapist, is still the very kind, caring,and conscientious person as my friend that she was as my therapist. And, still a hoot! She has not changed.

When I was her client I would ask any and everything about her personal life, including sex. One question I felt was inappropriate then and sometimes wish that I did, but never would ask the question as a friend. I would also never ask the question of my friends of 30 years or new friends I meet. I'll just have to take my curiosity to my grave, unless...