I know different parts of her -- they're all true, so to speak. But, they don't form a coherent whole in my mind. It all feels rather fragmented.

But, then again, the same could be said of my sense of my own self (not that I strongly believe in its existence but that's a different topic).

Or, that of most other relationships / people in my life.

I don't have a problem though in mostly "knowing" her really closely in an emotional sense in session (and she has experienced me in that way as well). But, she has commented that that's my 'hyper-attunement' (long-standing survival trick) at work and little else.