Reading your post made me angry...and it hit very close to home. From what I can tell, you are in a relationship with a man who is either very self centered, or is unable to empathize with someone else, which is hard to take considering that when you're in a relationship, it's your partner that you turn to first for comfort and understanding.

My husband of six years is both of these things, self centered and insensitive to my feelings. He can not remove himself from a situation and see only how it affects me, or how I feel. He relates everything to himself, and is incapable of just being there for me. To be honest, it is a huge part of why our marriage on the ropes, (along with his inability to communicate!) and I have told him that it is likely that I will eventually move out. We have two children, and I am 16 weeks pregnant with our third, and yet I know I deserve better than the one sided relationship I'm in. I pray he learns how to communicate and "step outside himself" before it's too late, but I will not remain with a man who isn't there when I need him the most.

And this is my advice (take it for what it's worth!) to you; ask yourself if you're getting what you need from your relationship, and if the answer is "no", you have two choices. #1: tell him exactly how you feel, and give him the opportunity to change the way he relates to you. 2# leave. I don't know about you, but I would rather be alone than be with someone who adds hurt to my pain.

Good luck, and please know that there are many good people here with great advice, who genuinely care. I thank my stars for finding this forum and the wonderful; people on it!