you might not like my answer here... but if my friend was at that place... i would tell them that they need to call someone more qualified to help them then i am...and if they couldn't i would do it for them... it sounds like they need more help then you are able to give right now... you need to take care of yourself... and be safe....so you can be there to help them...i don't know if this is making any sense...your a good friend...lyn